The Person to Blame for Your Mess

This probably isn’t for you.

But, if it is, you probably won’t like hearing it…

And, if that’s the case…

You probably need to.

Here it is —

How’s life treating you right now?

Do you feel like you’re THRIVING?

Has this pandemic brought out the best in you?

Or, are you just surviving?

Sure, society is a state of uncertainty.

Things are REALLY different.

We’re all hoping our professionals get this thing under wraps soon.

But, if your life is in a mess, chances are, it was like that before this pandemic, too.

These circumstances just revealed it – lifted the veil, if you will.

And, that’s OK. It’s a good thing. Don’t be upset.

So, now, who’s to blame?

Surely, not the Government.

Not Technology, either.

Not our Schools and not the News.

You’re alive, so your Parents did fine.

And, if you have a Baby Daddy, he’s got nothing to do with this.

Then, there’s my favorite group. The one’s many like to throw the blame at when they’re REALLY down and out.

“Those behind the curtain.”

“THEY” control everything, right?

“THEY” don’t want us to be happy, to have money, to be in power.

“THEY” are the ones making our lives hell.

Lol. Really?

Are THEY making us sleep in every day, eat shitty food, not exercise, and consume nothing but violence and drama on our devices?

That’s right.

The only one we can point the finger at, is us.

We’re the “Bad Guy.”

Our misery are our fault, and nobody else’s.

It’s tough owning up to the fact that we’ve been making mistakes – living life against what we deep down knew was right.

That’s why we outside ourselves to find a target.

And, if we’ve gone as far as to look, we usually do find.

Look, I get it.

It’s not easy to own our mistakes, especially if we’ve been making them for a long time.

But, guess what?

Everyone makes mistakes.

No one has it ALL FIGURED OUT.

Not at 30. Not at 50. Not at 70.

Even if it looks like it – I can assure you, they just figured out enough to ride the storm.

“When you grow up you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact: Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it… Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.”- Steve Jobs

The good news is…

There are no rules!

You don’t need to have millions of dollars, a huge following, be married, have children, or have a house.

In short, you don’t need to live a life others understand.

Intellectually, this may be easy to grasp. Except, it’s hard to cope with in practice.

Especially for those who grew up with parents who over-valued the opinions of others.

For example… “Doctor, lawyer, or engineer.”

You’ve heard that one before, right?

Probably. Especially if you come from an immigrant family.

My point is, you live life FIRST for yourself.

So, you should live it in accordance with what YOU believe is best.

And, if you’re doing that correctly – that is, from your heart – you’ll eventually position yourself in such a way as to actually be a valuable member of society.

DEFINITELY more valuable than some mediocre doctor, lawyer, or engineer who hates what they do.

Plus, you’ll probably have A TON of fun along the way.

So, in closing, if you’re not living the life you dream, if you’re not THRIVING, ask yourself the hard questions.

What are you valuing so much that makes you conform?

Do you really want to grow old to be regretful?

Is a “safe” life a happy life?

As humans beings, we have a tendency to create our own jail cells, and then live in them.

Please, don’t be that person.

Let’s RAISE our level of awareness.

Let’s RAISE ourselves out of this mess.

It’s not too late.

Time is moving, and it’s moving fast.

So, know that much.

Know that if you’re not happy, you need to look within yourself to find out why.

In other words, as hard as it might be to accept, you’re the one to blame.

And, that being the case, start by by holding yourself accountable.

There might be shame, guilt, regret.

That’s OK.

Accept it all.

Don’t live with it, though.

Change it.

Change yourself.

For yourself. For all of us.

We need you. I believe in you.

You got this.

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” – Jim Rohn