Do you feel like you have emotional barriers in the way of what you want?
Like, you want to do something, but there’s never the energy to get up and do it?
I think we’ve all been there.
It usually happens like this: We decide we want something out of life. We realize what we need to do to get it, and we tell ourselves we’re going to do it. Then, when the time comes, we find a reason to put it off.
We tell our self something like, “tomorrow”.
Then, tomorrow turns into today, and more often than not, it’s the same thing over again.
This happens again and again, until we’re ashamed with ourselves.
Well, our ego won’t let us feel that too long.
Eventually, it’ll just mentally categorize it as something like “not that important” or “not for me”.
Although, deep down, we know that’s a lie.
And we know that’s the case because when it’s brought up again, we either become defensive because we don’t want to feel humiliated, or we withdraw because feel shame.
Our self-esteem is shot.
Consciously, this is a destructive place to be in.
Because from here, anyone who’s actually maintaining integrity with themselves is liable to be the enemy.
Why?
They remind us of our shortcomings.
They remind us of how we’re failing ourselves.
They remind us of all the promises we’ve broken with ourselves.
In essence, they remind us of who we are – a person filled with hatred.
This is the birth of a “Hater”.
A Hater is a fan.
A Big fan.
Actually, a HUGE fan.
A hater sees what another does, and wants to be just like that person.
But, something inside the hater tells him he’s not good enough.
So, he begins to “hate” that something inside.
Well, the ego can’t have this.
It can’t accept being on the “bottom”.
So, it goes on to do what it does – protect itself.
It begins to leverage the faculties of reasoning and imagination to save face.
It begins to project that hatred outward, onto said person who’s doing what they want to do – maintaining integrity.
Of course, this is all stuff that happens behind the scenes.
We make up stories to rationalize the behavior.
We have to have a reason, right?
“Ego is just an overdressed insecurity.”
– Quincy Jones
Really, there’s just two choices we have when we come across someone displaying behaviors we admire: we can either become inspired or we can turn into a hater.
In other words, the energy’s transferred no matter what. It’s up to us to transmute it into something.
Our most valuable asset is the conscious control of our own life.
Meaning, our control over our own inner world of mind and emotion.
Many of us know this, but yet, we still allow other people, things, events, and conditions to control us.
To take back the control we must start by accepting ourselves – COMPLETELY, with flaws, shortcomings, and certain lapses of judgement.
This is the key to free up energy.
Energy that’s otherwise being used to hold ourselves back.
Energy that otherwise can be used to do that thing we wanted to do.
Nobody want’s to feel regret.
Certainly, nobody wants to live in regret.
We all want to reach our goals. And, we all want to feel good about ourselves in the process.
No one needs to be “above” or “below” another, because we all have our own path.
If we think about it – like, really think about it – the only thing that’s really holding us ALL back is EGO.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
– Carl Jung